Meaningful connections

When meeting new people, there's a natural inclination to feel a stronger connection with those who share similarities with us, as this can unconsciously validate our own sense of self and foster trust. However, as caregivers, we frequently interact with individuals who may have very different appearances, beliefs, and life experiences, often being much older than us.

This inherent bias, whether subconscious or due to a feeling of ease with perceived similarities, can sometimes make it challenging to cultivate a meaningful connection. Yet, connections founded on trust are paramount in caregiving. When an individual feels truly invested in their well-being, it significantly contributes to a more positive mindset regarding their care, health, and progress.

There is substantial research supporting the "mind-body connection," demonstrating a strong link between a positive mindset and improved physical outcomes. This can manifest as shorter rehabilitations, faster recovery, and even quicker wound healing rates in individuals with strong emotional wellness—something I have personally witnessed.

When I meet someone I will be caring for, my approach is to look beyond their physical condition or the circumstances that led them to need assistance. Instead, I make an effort to get to know them as individuals. I might ask about their interests, past professions, or discuss topics like sports or music, perhaps prompted by something I observe in their home. My goal isn't to distract, but to genuinely understand the person I am assisting. Through these conversations, we learn about each other, uncover shared interests, and often discover common ground that isn't visible or based on any preconceived notions.

By making a meaningful connection, positive mindsets and improved outcomes are more achievable, and what could be more validating than that?